Fear and Anxiety Have Their Own Logic
A man had a fear of flying. His main worry was that there could be a terrorist on board carrying a bomb. For the last 15 years he had managed to avoid travelling by air. However one day he had no choice to travel to a conference by plane. Since he was a statistic professor, he used his mathematical skills and came up with a logical solution.
He was calm as he packed and head toward the airport. When he passed the security check, they discovered a bomb in his carry-on-baggage. The police hauled him off immediately for interrogation.
“This is strange!” the interrogating officer exclaimed. “According to our records, you’re an accomplished scientist, a caring family man and an active member of your church. Why do you want to blow up an airplane?”
“I’m sorry”, the professor replied. “There must be a misunderstanding. I never intended to blow up the plane.”
“So, what on earth prompted you to bring a bomb on board?!”
“Let me explain. I’m a statistics expert and according to my statistical calculations, the probability of a bomb being on an airplane is 1/1000. That’s quite high if you think about it. It’s so high that I would have severe anxiety on a flight.”
“And what does this have to do with you trying to bring a bomb on board of a plane?”
“You see, since the probability of one bomb being on my plane is 1/1000, the chance that there are two bombs is 1/1000000. If I already bring one, the chance of another bomb being around is actually 1/1000000, and I feel much safer!”
This popular math joke illustrates that at times what seems logical and common sense may not be an answer to a problem. The solution of the anxious professor was based on logical calculations of mathematical probabilities and statistics. However its effects become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The very action of the professor that tried to avoid the danger exacerbates it.
There are thousands of books, blogs, sites, and ebooks available on the market on the subject of anxiety, fears and obsessions. They all give logical and common sense advice to help your overcome your anxiety. In the following pages you will read what those rational recommendations are and why they are unhelpful.
As Mark Twain warned us, “Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.”
Moreover, in the last few decades the amount of information on “anxiety disorders” has multiplied. Despite the thousands of online pages and hundreds books available on the market the number of people suffering from fear and anxiety has increased! Before the invention of internet, only professionals and researchers had access to specialized information, but now thanks to the proliferation of online resources, anyone can read the latest research on fear and anxiety.
However, this excess information has caused confusion about phobias and anxiety. It’s very difficult to distinguish information from misinformation.
According to popular belief, you must walk on a long and arduous road before you could escape the labyrinth of anxiety, fear and obsessions. There is a myth that if you want to get well you must take medication, examine the relationship of your parents and family members or analyze your childhood, in order to free yourself from anxiety related problems. They say that you must be willing to be patient and suffer a long time before you can be well.
However the new discoveries in the field of neurology have challenged this assumption. It is possible to overcome fear, anxiety and all the ramifications such as panic attacks and obsessions, in a short time. There is a solution to your problem despite your childhood experience. After 23 years of experience helping people overcomes fear and anxiety, I have become a specialist in “desperate” and “tough” cases.
The majority of my clients come to see me as the last resort. Many of them are skeptical about their recovery because they have tried everything possible with no success. I remember a woman who told me that she had, “a PhD in her anxiety” because she had gone through “every possible therapy schools for 7 years.” She overcame her anxiety in less than 5 sessions.
Life is a process marked by continuous changes. Heraclitus, the Greek philosopher said that “the only constant in life is change.” As we grow older, we are faced with new challenges that transform our life. We must be flexible and adapt ourselves like a soft branch. A stiff branch sooner or later breaks because it cannot resist the weight of snow or even its own fruit.
Any kind of change, whether negative or positive, puts a demand on us. Life is a never ending series of difficulties, challenges and crisis. In order to be healthy and happy we ought to know how to deal with them.
Fear and anxiety is a fact of life. We all feel them because it’s an inborn reaction to danger. It’s the body’s mechanism to prepare us for action. From a survival point of view, anxiety is indispensable. The gut-response helps us anticipate and respond to a threat and keep us alert and ready to deal with a threat. However when fear and anxiety turn chronic, they limit our life. As a warning signal is necessary, but if the signal gets stuck, we can no longer enjoy life. It’s like a beeping sound in a car that alerts us that the oil level is low. The initial sound turns into a distracting nuisance that doesn’t let us enjoy driving.
In these pages you will learn two skills:
1. First you learn how to avoid common and costliest mistakes that, in the long run, worsen your condition.
2. Then you learn the steps to get out of the labyrinth of fear and anxiety.
These pages are not a substitute to any medication, therapy or counselling. Neither I’m suggesting that any condition related to fear and anxiety can be solved quickly. There are cases that require patience from the person to overcome his anxiety. However, according to my years of experience as a specialist of desperate and difficult cases, I know that it is possible to solve your anxiety and fear, even if you have been suffering for many years and have gone through long and arduous therapy sessions. Lasting change not only is possible, it’s inevitable.