How to Eliminate Intrusive Thoughts

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Have you ever had a violent thought toward a close person? Maybe you thought of hurting someone you love; stabbing them; pushing them; or acting in other horrifying ways. If one of these thoughts has popped into your head without your control, you are not alone. You are not a bad person. You are not mad. You are not a criminal.

These thoughts are called “intrusive thoughts”. They are inappropriate images that enter your mind without your volition or control. They are basically stupid thoughts without any reason behind them.

Intrusive thoughts are common among those who suffer from anxiety disorder. However, these unwanted thoughts do appear also in the mind of those people who are not necessarily struggling with anxiety.

For most people these violent thoughts and images are fleeting moments of anxiety. People get very scared when they cannot dismiss them mainly because they fear they might actually put them into practice.

Avoid These 5 Mistakes

Before you learn what to do about these unwanted thoughts, let’s see five most common mistakes people make when they try to get rid of intrusive thoughts.

The first mistake is searching for the origin of these thoughts and asking, “Why do I have these thoughts?” The more you search for a logical reason, the more difficult it becomes to find a solution. These thoughts are useless and stupid.

Second mistake is trying very hard not to think of unwanted thoughts. However, our brain cannot forget by will power. You cannot not to think of something because not thinking is thinking with more intensity!

Fyodor Dostoevsky, the nineteen Century Russian author, warned us about this mistake with the following challenge:

Try to pose for yourself this task: not to think of a polar bear, and you will see that the cursed thing will come to mind every minute.”

Social psychologist Daniel Wegner put Dostoevsky’s advice to test. In his study, the participants were divided into two groups. The first group was instructed to think of white bears for five minutes. The second group was asked not to think of white bears for the same period of time. Then after a short break, both groups were asked to think of white bears again.

Wegner found that the members of the group that were told not to think for five minutes and then were asked to think, they thought of white bears more often than participants who had been told from the beginning to think of white bears. The results of this research confirmed that Dostoevsky’s was right: you cannot banish a thought forcefully.

The third mistake is trying to resist the negative thoughts. Some therapists claim that whenever you have an intrusive thought, you will be able to control them if you say to yourself “Stop!” This thought stopping technique is not an effective way to get rid of unwanted thoughts because it’s a variation of the first mistake.

The forth mistake is also another variation of the first inefficient strategy. Some people try to distract their mind. Distraction may help you focus on another topic; however, it will not eliminate the intrusive thoughts. Later they will pop up into your head.

The fifth mistake is to try to convince yourself that you would never actually do such things. Although this seems a logical strategy, it does not work because by reasoning with these thoughts, you are paying attention to them. Whenever you search for a rational response to unwanted thoughts, it’s like running away from a monster as well as feeding fresh meat to eat! It will become stronger.

How to eliminate intrusive thoughts

The first step in eliminating intrusive thoughts is becoming aware of the above mistakes and avoiding them. They are ineffective strategies that could actually make the problem worse.

There are two specific strategies that can help you eliminate intrusive thoughts:

First useful strategy:

Every time you get an unwanted thought or image, say to yourself: “This is a stupid thought”, “ It doesn’t deserve an intelligent reply”, and “I can block my reaction to it.” As you can see, this is a different approach than trying to stop the negative thought or not thinking. You have no control over a thought that involuntarily comes to your mind. Once you have an image in your head, you cannot get rid of it.

Where is your domain of control? The answer is: your own reaction. You can control how you answer these thoughts. So, instead of focusing your attention on the unwanted thoughts, focus your effort on your reaction to them.

For few weeks practice ignoring these thoughts by avoiding giving them rational replies. Stupid thoughts do not deserve intelligent answers.

Second useful strategy:

If the first strategy is too weak for you, then you can use one of the Chinese principles of Tao Te Ching. Lao Tse, the author of this classic book of ancient wisdom, writes:

What is in the end to be weakened,

Begins by being first made strong.

This means that if you want to diminish or eliminate the unwanted thoughts, first you must encourage their flow. You can let intrusive thoughts to come to your mind without trying to stop them.

Allow yourself voluntarily to think of all these nasty thoughts. There are some rules to doing this correctly. You decide when, where and for how long you think these thoughts. It is done in a controlled fashion: it has a beginning and an end.

This exercise will help you control the uncontrollable because it’s a paradoxical approach. Reflect for a minute! The more you try to control your thoughts, the more you lose control of them. To overcome this paradoxical impasse, you apply a counter-paradox. You let go of control in order to gain control.

This idea may be scary at first but will help you channel the intrusive thoughts. After two weeks of this paradoxical exercise, the unwanted thoughts will be less likely to come back into your mind.

A good way to tame these negative thoughts is to write them down. In a previous blog post I explain in detail the step-by-step of this assignment. You can set an alarm to write for 30 minutes all your intrusive thoughts that you voluntarily can conjure up. Then write whatever comes to your mind as you express freely any emotion that you feel. Perform this task alone in a room so you would feel free to cry if you feel like it. When the alarm goes off, stop writing and tear up the papers into pieces.

“What you deny, subdues you. What you accept, transforms you.” Carl Jung

An Effective Way to Banish Your Worries

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We all have negative and worrisome thoughts. Often we don’t know how to overcome them. Here is a proven way to banish your negative thoughts and worries.

The tool that I recommend you is simple and powerful. All you need are papers and a pen.

Before I explain you how to go about it, let’s see its benefits. Several studies have shown that writing down your thoughts and negative emotions has many health benefits.

A study conducted by Dr. Elizabeth Broadbent, professor of medicine at the University of Auckland in New Zealand, found that writing down emotionally distressing events help you reduce your anxiety.

In another study Dr. Anne Mangen and her team at the University of Stavanger in Norway discovered that when writing by hand, there is a greater a connection between what you feel with your body and what you understand. Therefore writing down your worrisome thoughts or negative emotions will help you make sense of your emotionally charged experience.

Write by hand

Computers dominate our lives. We prefer tying at the keyboard because we are used to it. However, when it comes to expressing your emotions, the pen is mightier than the keyboard.

Writing by hand stimulates the brain in a different way than using a keyboard. Your brain receives feedback from your arm muscles and fingertips, which makes the experience more physical. It helps you rearrange your memories and emotional experiences.

When you write by hand, you exert more physical and mental effort. This stimulates different regions of your brain. Moreover, as writing by hand is slower than typing, your unconscious mind has more time to filter out undesirable thoughts.

Moreover, your subconscious mind works best with symbols and metaphors. Writing by hand becomes a symbolic act to pour down on the paper all your worries and thoughts. This way you build an emotional distance from the distressful events.

How to do it

If you have worrisome thoughts or some emotionally charged issue that causes you anxiety, here is an assignment that you can perform for two weeks:

Commit to do the following assignment for two weeks in order to notice the benefits. It is important that you follow the instructions to the letter.

Set aside 30 minutes to one hour a day to do this task. Make sure you are alone. Avoid listening to music so you can concentrate on the task.

Set an alarm clock for the allotted time. Take several white papers and start writing by hand.

Write all your thoughts and feelings. Let your mind wander freely and write anything that worries you. Just write any emotional issue, any negative memory or even traumatic experiences that have not been healed yet. It could be a fight you had with your sister or brother or even a death of someone you loved.

As you write, let go of your analytical and judgmental mind. Just write down all your thoughts and emotions without censuring them. Any word or expression is valid. Therefore you can write whatever thoughts that pops up in your mind, even if they are nasty words.

No need to write in an orderly fashion. You can jump from one issue to another, or from the present to the past and to the future. Any issue is ok: yourself, partner, friends, parents, relatives, etc.

You can l go of any emotion. If you feel like crying, cry! If you get angry and feel like shouting, shout! As you write let go of your emotions and express them.

Since you will be writing every day you can repeat certain topics or issues. You can write about the same issues or experiences over again, or write about different topics each day.

Remember you are not writing an essay. It is an emotional, expressive and intuitive writing. So you are allowed to make spelling and grammar mistakes.

Start writing and when the alarm goes off, stop writing!

After the alarm goes off, avoid reading what you wrote. Tear up the papers and throw them out. This way your writing is confidential.

Some people may fear that concentrating on negative thoughts would make them worse. This will not happen because you dedicate a very specific time to it that has a beginning and an end. In this way your mind learns to start and stop negative thought by will. This will give you more control over your worrisome thoughts. Even though the assignment is counterintuitive, the results are positive and beneficial.

As Lao Tse put it: “To reduce something, one must deliberately expand it; to weaken something, one must deliberately strengthen it; to eliminate something, one must let it flourish.”

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Drilling Holes in Your Skull for Anxiety Relief

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In 2005 Karl Deisseroth used the light beam to activate certain brain cells responsible for mood as a way to control its circuitry. Deisseroth, Professor of Bioengineering of Psychiatry at Stanford University, is best known for his development of a technology he coined as “Optogenetics”.

According to Deisseroth, Optogenetics is a tool not only to better study and observe the complex circuitry of the brain but also to manipulate the electrical activity of very specific cells that are responsible for certain emotion or behaviour.

Deisseroth applies his method in two main steps. He first infuses specifically targeted cells or groups of cells within the brain with a gene to render them light sensitive. Then he triggers or suppresses the activity of those neurons by stimulating them. This process requires a surgical operation (drilling holes into the person’s skull) in order to insert into the brain devices to accomplish the required procedure.

One of the applications of this technology that attracted much attention is to discover how the brain of an anxious or depressed person works and treat it. For this purpose Deisseroth only accepts people suffering from severe cases of depression and anxiety that all the other methods have failed to help them. He then combines psychiatric medications and Optogenetics to control those areas in their brain responsible for mood and behaviour.

Optogenetics could be a cutting-edge technology for research. However, it may not be suitable for treatment for several reasons. As you recall the first step of this brain manipulation technique is to render certain brain cells sensitive to light. In order to achieve this, a live virus is applied to the brain cell, which genetically and permanently alters its function. We don’t know what might be the long-term negative consequences of tampering with genetic function of brain cells. One possible side effect is that the immune system might reject the genetically altered brain cells.

Now, let’s assume that this technology is free from side effects. Why resort to such an invasive and expensive procedure when there are other less expensive and more effective methods available? As Leonardo Da Vinci said: “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

I believe that a small percentage of people suffering from anxiety and depression can get help from drugs and/or complex technologies such as Optogenetics. However, according to my experience, the majority of people respond well to the right methodology. The key is to find a competent therapists who are specialized in helping people with anxiety and depression.