Carmen was a young woman in her twenties who came to see me two weeks before her wedding day. She had no time to lose so she quickly stated her problem: she couldn’t get over her ex. Even though she had broken up with this former boyfriend and had completely let go of that past relationship, and was about to marry the man of her dreams… she had become obsessed with her ex-boyfriend.
She had tried to forget her ex-boyfriend but couldn’t. Among the complicating factors was that this ex-boyfriend was a good friend of the family and as such he was invited to the wedding.
The closer Carmen got to the wedding day, the more obsessed she had become. She felt terribly guilty and blamed herself for the persistent thoughts swimming around her head.
After listening to her story, I told Carmen that I agreed with her: she should feel guilty. I suggested that a good way to resolve her problem would be a good punishment. I argued that she deserved it because she still was thinking about her one man when she was about to get married to another.